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A Thousand Different Directions

The last week or so, I have felt pulled in a thousand different directions. I can’t help wonder if some of it is due to my renewed passion to read the Word, or my stepping out to pursue the desire of my heart…sharing my voice with others. Most definitely some of it is simply due to the fact that I am a mom of 8.

But it leads me to question what my priorities are. No one would question that my being a wife and mom is of the utmost priority, but what does that look like? Some have said that by my stepping out vocally that I am teaching my children to take risks, to follow God’s leading, to use my gifts for God. But I could also argue that I am being selfish and not spending enough time with my children, or that my practicing takes time away from them.

I also wonder about income. Is it wrong of me to be at home not making income when we so desperately need it? Some (including myself) believe that a woman can save her family money by simply being home to prepare meals and take care of the kids. But you can’t save money if you have no money to save. I could go and get a part-time job to help make some extra money. But what would have to be pushed aside…the dishes, my music, the kid’s schooling, this blog?

And how important is this blog? Does it have value? Yes, I have a few who read it on a regular basis, but is it worth it? Do I continue to do something that seems to have little fruit? Which is the more noble task…clean laundry or sharing my life with others who may or may not want to know of my life? Wouldn’t just a simple Facebook status update suffice?

How do I answer these questions? Do I get a part-time job? Do I continue with my blog? Do I pursue sharing my vocal talents? And what about the kids, the baby, the house? How will it all be taken care of?

I know of only one way to answer my questions? I take them to Jesus. I seek the Lord’s guidance. So far, all I know is, besides continuing to nurture the kids, I am pursuing sharing my voice, and, for now, I am continuing the blog. I am unsure of everything else. Thank God I have a God who will lead me!

What are your priorities? What does God want you to do with your time?

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Help for the Unemployed’s Wife

I got such a kick out of this list!

I have seen and read articles about what to do if you lose your job, but I have never seen an article telling a wife what to do if her husband loses his job. When a man loses his job, it affects everyone in the family, not just himself. So I thought I would share some of the things I’ve learned in response to my husband losing his job.

  • One of the first things I had to understand was it is not my job to get my husband a new job. That’s his job. There were times when I have been tempted to ask what jobs he has applied for or what websites he has visited. Sometimes people would tell me of jobs they knew about, I would pass it along and leave it at that. I knew if he was interested he would find out more. I didn’t nag. I view his job searching like my cooking dinner. My husband doesn’t come and hover over me as I cook; making sure that I put in all the right ingredients. No, he just comes when food is ready knowing that I have done the best I can with dinner. Job hunting is his job not mine.
  • Sometimes my husband will get really down on himself. He will beat himself up and say things like, “My life sucks.” I have really struggled with not taking it personally and not making it about me. I have had to bite my tongue on numerous occasions from saying, “Gee, love you, too.” (Said with much sarcasm.) And I am sure I have let it slip a couple of times. I can guarantee you that it will start a fight. My husband’s feelings of being a failure have nothing to do with me or our family. I just keep on loving and supporting him and telling him how wonderful I think he is.
  • It has also been hard for me to come to grips that my husband is not going to be doing more housework. My mentality was “If he is going to be home, then he should do half of the housework too.” But this brings me back to my earlier point, it is his job to find a job. If he had a job, he wouldn’t be here anyway to help out, so why am I bitter? As soon as I realized this, when he does help out it has become a blessing and not me feeling like “it’s about time.” And now I feel like he is such a tremendous help to me!
  • Whether my husband has a high paying job or can only make minimum wage, he is still my man! I still hold his face in my hands and tell him how proud I am of him. Nothing and no one can convince me otherwise. He’s smart. He’s sexy. He’s talented. And even if the world may not see it, I show him that every chance I can get.
  • I have also struggled with feelings like, “Aren’t I worth you going and getting a job you hate?” I have catered to the thought, “Oh, it would only be a season of not seeing you…” I have struggled with my desire for fine things. I have struggled with seeing other people get things I want. But they are only things. It is far more important to have a husband who is around to be a daddy. It is far more important to have my man around to be my husband.
  • I have had to come to terms with trying to fix our financial situation. Again this comes back to letting him do his job. For us and our beliefs, it is my husband’s job to provide for our family. Not mine. I have had part-time jobs during our season of financial cutbacks. And, once, instead of doing the job as a way to get out of the house, it became a way to make money. What happened instead was the kids started fighting; they started getting crabby; I became resentful. I had to come to grips with the fact that it wasn’t my job. I had to let it go. I had to give it over to God…all of it.

That is what has brought me through this season. I rest peacefully in the role God has given me as a wife. I am my husband’s help meet. I am to help him, not take over. My job is to take care of my home and my children. I find so much peace in this. I know that God will provide. I know my husband will do his job. I trust that God will guide him. After all, I didn’t marry a dud…I married a stud.

Are you embracing the role God has for you as a wife? Read the Word and ask what role God wants you to have. Rest in the confidence that He will provide all your needs.

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By a Thread…Part 2

So some have wondered why I am angry and frustrated. Well, the short of it is that I am tired of living hand to mouth. I am worried about the debt that daily looms over our heads. I want to get ahead.

So I took my frustrations and anger to God. I realized that even though I may be “hanging by a thread“, God is completely supporting and carrying us…and that’s a great place to be.

I took my eyes off of Jesus, just like Peter did when he walked on water. God is here for us, just as He was for Peter. He never lets us fall. Never. Not once.

All we need to do is get out of the boat, and fix our eyes on Him.

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