Quiverfull or Less

Nineteen! That’s how many children the Duggars currently have.

I love watching 19 Kids and Counting, when I get a chance. I love seeing the family dynamics, and getting new ideas on managing the home of a large family. Recently the Duggars announced that they are open to having a 20th child in spite of all they went through with the youngest Duggar, Josie. You see, the Duggar family is part of a mindset called Quiverfull. The belief (and it is back by scriptural interpretation) is that children are a blessing from God. To restrict by use of birth control of any form or sterilization would be to 1) not trust God or 2) withhold the blessings God has for them.

You might think that we at JoKars Wild are Quiverfull minded, but we are not. Yes, we have a large family. Yes, we trust God. Yes, we believe that children are a blessing from God. But there seems to be one missing ingredient to the Quiverfull mindset.

Recently a woman left a comment on one of my posts that said, “Life is already full of inevitable pain and suffering, why would you bring kids in this world, only to have them go through that too?! I can’t believe how selfish people are by having a disgraceful amount of kids. Even one is a disgrace amount!!”

As with the Duggars, I agree on some level. Yes, this life is full of pain and suffering. Why create another being to have to deal with sorrow, regrets, hatred, bitterness, brokenness? There are timess when I have worried for my children. Will we have enough food to last the month? If food prices keep going up, will I be able to afford nutritious food to feed them? Will we continue to have a place to live? As it gets colder, how will I provide jackets and boots? The answer to all those questions and the missing ingredient comes down to one thing.

A relationship.

2 Responses so far »

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    Diana Fulmer said,

    Hi Kara,
    when I was young I thought about the quiverfull but wanted to adopt them all, whether or not I was capable of having children. At 32 and still single, I did adopt my son, then married at 39 and we decided to old for more., and hubby who was 48 got a vasectomy. If there are health issues at stake or the other children are struggling with feeling left out, then a bigger family would not be right, and I believe that birth control would be a blessing to help stay in God’s will., and manage what you have. So glad to see you guys doing so well in your new home.!!!

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    Howard Becker said,

    With both parents grounded in GOD all children brought into this world by those parents are in for a great and fantastic life. I feel so sorry for that lady you mentioned. Her life must be filled with pain and suffering and loneliness.


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